Here we are, another Memorial Day, another time to remember the many soldiers who gave their lives fighting for the United States of America.
Special ceremonies and services honoring the fallen are held in communities big and small across the nation even as you read this.
These are beautiful gestures of respect and remembrance, and I have no doubt they mean a lot to the families of those who died serving, not to mention living veterans of wars past and present. But I argue that these latter, the living veterans and soldiers, especially, and probably the many families of soldiers, need more than “just” a ceremony in their names.
Again, I’m sure they appreciate it. It’s important to them. It shows they’re not totally forgotten. But in a sense, so many veterans are.
Just reading this New York Times op-ed by ex-Marine Mike Scotti is enough to make you question whether or not we give enough consideration, or care, to veterans.
But it’s more than just that article.
Even before I interviewed one ex-Marine for a class magazine while a student at Loyola University Chicago who mentioned some of his struggles to me, I had encountered in Chicago multiple people who said they were veterans and were struggling. Homeless. I don’t know if these were truly veterans, but maybe. There was the man peddling his poetry on the CTA train, who in a fit of frustration turned around, yelled at the people in the train car who ignored him for turning a deaf ear, and showed his stomach wound. Then there was the guy who called out to me as I was leaving Harold Washington Library Center in downtown Chicago, who had but a simple request: some food. So I took him to the little sandwich shop across the street, paid for a meal for him, and sat and listened to him talk about struggling since coming home from the Vietnam War. By then, that had been a three-decade struggle for him.
And then there was a recent newsmaker, the soldier who shot to death more than a dozen Afghan villagers in the middle of the night, who had reportedly been previously diagnosed with trauma but sent to the war yet again, anyway. In doing so, the authorities of our government and military put in danger not just those Afghan villagers, but the very men and women with whom he would be serving, as well as himself – his whole life could be ruined now.
Why don’t we care enough to look out for these people and make sure they get proper treatment, counseling and attention? Yes, to get help you must first ask for it, and for some god-awful reason asking for help remains taboo and a sign of weakness in our society. But it’s so much more than just pride (which actually does stop many people from asking for desperately-needed assistance). You don’t want to reach out, not just because you fear your hand will be swatted away, but that others will see you as weak, as a drain, as a leech, unwilling to just pull yourself up by your bootstraps and just “get over it.”
In our society, if you need help, you’re just not trying hard enough… and others think they are doing you a favor by not helping, because in their mind it reinforces individual responsibility and prevents you from becoming dependent. It’s ridiculous. It’s atrocious. It’s shameful.
Who cares that you said “thank you for your service” when you walked by the guy or girl in their military fatigues at the airport? It’s a nice gesture, but it doesn’t help, and in a way, we’re all guilty of thinking that the gesture is enough. It’s not.
And with so many people calling for government austerity as we struggle with our staggering debt, many services are undoubtedly going to be cut or reduced. We might tell ourselves that the Department of Veterans Affairs is immune to this, that we’d never cut services there. But that’s inevitable as we keep talking austerity and find ways to reduce our government spending… Let’s not forget that as summer begins, we’re already hearing news of a repeat of last year’s debt ceiling debacle, which ended in too-little, too-late as our country’s credit rating was downgraded. And with that is obviously the threat of a government shutdown. When the government shuts down, it’s not just that mail carriers will be without paychecks. A government shutdown would mean VA services would be put on hold…
And clearly, the actual level of service to veterans at the VA is still pitiful.
So is that of our society.
In a time when austerity is demanded, and people who are on some sort of government assistance are derided as lazy leeches, our veterans continue to suffer silently, alone, because they don’t want to be shamed, and their previous attempts to get help got a lukewarm reception and half-assed follow-ups.
After the ceremonies finish, we should work towards providing better services to veterans of our wars. It shouldn’t stop at just saying “thanks.” Gratitude is nice, but gratitude alone doesn’t help them put food on the table, it doesn’t help them deal with what they’ve seen and done, it doesn’t re-integrate them into society.
Instead, we say our “thank-you’s” and “goodbye’s,” and we go back to not giving a shit, to questioning the need for government services or involvement in anything. And our politicians on both sides will go back to bickering and bringing the nation to yet another potential standstill and putting on the line more than payroll but also important, if still meager, services to not just poor families but to veterans. It’s shameful.
Too often, we think ceremonies are enough.
They’re not.
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